I’ve read a lot of literature, but the first time I encountered BDSM it was by accident. Apparently not everything Anne Rice writes is horror! I was in the library looking for a new horror book having just finished one of the vampire books and I picked up a book called ‘Beauty’s Punishment’ needless to say it was an eye opener. I read and found myself aroused, but at the same time I felt it was wrong to be… at 20 I had very little experience. I had been married briefly to a very inexperienced man who ultimately was unfaithful and the relationship ended. I had a young son. But I was very niave.
I met my now husband when I was 21, and our relationship has been great. MrH is strong, passionate, caring. We have had periods where the passion has ebbed but we have remained strong together through our deep friendship and trust.
Even so it took me 17 years to ask him if he would be willing to try BDSM and as I am now off to work I’ll tell you about that next time.