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Asking the question.. (How it began – part 2)

Earlier I talked about how my interest in kink began, and a bit about my past and current relationships. MrH is everything to me and he has been since we met. I feel lost without him… as much as the independent woman within me screams that she doesn’t need a man! My heart knows the truth- that my world is better with him in it.

So there we were plodding along as most married couples do. Our routine was simple and our sex life fulfilling. MrH knew me well enough that he could bring me to climax almost every time we had sex and the occasions when it didn’t happen generally it was my head that wasn’t in the right place.

We both work full time and to make matters more complex I have chronic back pain – I mean there have been times when I have been in too much pain to stand up. At the moment it’s controlled by a cocktail of pain medication and I’m relatively comfortable.

One sunny day MrH and I were at the local hospital waiting to see my pain specialist… I’d taken my kindle and MrH had also brought a book and we were passing the time reading. I started with a ‘Harry Potter’ book and got bored so started flicking through the other books I had. ‘50 shades of grey’ popped up and I opened it. It was at the end of a scene, the first BDSM scene in the story and I decided to share it with MrH. I asked him to read from the beginning of the scene and when he had done so I said something like “I’d like it if we could do that”

I think I had my eyes on my knees because I felt awkward asking. MrH is a gentle man and here I was asking him to spank me and tie me up. He just said “Ok”

In the car on the way home we talked more and he expressed his doubts that I would like being restrained as I don’t like being out of control. I just responded that we wouldn’t know til we tried.

I don’t recall talking about it again. That evening when we got in bed, MrH pulled the covers down to the bottom of the bed. He took off my nighty. Placed my arms out wide in a v above head. Then took hold of my ankles and spread my legs. He took a blindfold and covered my eyes. I felt his breath on my neck as he leaned close and whispered “Don’t move”

From that moment I knew I was his submissive. It was the best night I had ever had (until then) and things have just got better.

That was how it began – how I became Sweetgirl and he became MrH my Sir.


I am 43 years old and have been married to MrH for 19 years; we’ve been together for 24. We have 2 boys, young men now really at 19 and 25. I have battled depression and anxiety on and off for the last 10 years and at the moment it’s under control. A few months ago I asked MrH if he would consider adding D/s to our relationship as I wanted explore submission. I’ve always liked it when MrH was more dominant and I wanted him to do this more. Since then we have transitioned into a full time D/s relationship and things have never been better with our relationship.

9 thoughts on “Asking the question.. (How it began – part 2)

  1. Hello Sweetgirl, Welcome, I’ve just found your blog through Ronnie at Heart and Soul. Your journey is very similar to a lot of us here in blogland where we read 50 shades and its taken off from there. Look forward to getting to know more about you and MrH.
    Hugs Lindy

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  2. Mister Man bought FSoG on the recommendation of a female friend. He wanted us to read them together. After reading the first steamy scene, and the sex that followed, I said, “We could try that.” He was a bit surprised that his reserved little wife was interested in kinky stuff, but we have been happily exploring ever since.

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      1. We certainly are bethanybody … I still can’t believe it’s been almost a year since this conversation…. and I’ve just received an appointment to go to the same clinic on the 18th June which is a mere 6 days before the one year mark!

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